its finally less than 2 weeks before back to sch.. to be exact that should be 12 days? Sweet! So many things that i need to do before getting back to those books again... photocopying some books... get some new shoes.. etc etc...
And I just realised that this coming semester will be so different... i guess it'll probably more of me spending more time with the books and gym.. afterall i won't be seeing so many friendly faces next semester - at least a dozen of them will be on Industrial attachment! Quite a few are flying overseas to places like france, switzerland and denmark for student exchange programme. wish that everyone will have a fruitful time.
in the meantime, it will be more fun and meet up with friends, to catch up and to say farwewell :)
emo emo again...hahah
It took me a moment to decide if I should write this post. haha, that's cos' I think it's gonna be too emo...haha... so what should I do?... But I recall reading on a fren's blog (who started blogging again after a long hiatus), that he's writing neither to entertain nor to please.... Afterall, this is my place where I scribe my reflections, thoughts and initimate feelings.... so I am just gonna write anything that pleases me.. HAHA..
Over the past few weeks, I have been pondering deeply on 'loving'. It started off when I saw a very impactful string of words on a friend's blog.... "You can have everything, but if you haven't love, you are truly nothing..." Those familiar with the bible would know that's the origin of this teaching. This isn't the first time I heard this, but this time round, these words kept me thinking for a long long time. I guess these are the word for this season of my life...
Everyone must have had some bad experiences in life. Some, we chuck aside... we run from them... (and a fortunate few ) we are able to resolve... but there the ones which we simply have no power against. We build tall walls to defend ourselves.... when these experiences gets too painful, we try to anesthetise ourselves.... Sometimes we even mutilate ourselves from within with the harshest self-condemnation. What's left over after such horrid treatment is nothing but a badly scarred soul that bleeds for acceptance...cry for comfort..yearns for love.
Personally, i think the most brutal wars are not waged with swords, but those that battles within the heart. In a materialistic, superficial world today, where only the affluent, successful and beautiful gets a share of the limelight... many who find themselves far from such qualities often feel insecure, inferior and unloved. They struggle to change. Many flock to gymnasiums, beauty parlours, aesthetic clinics to get a make-over to look like the next "Brangelina".... not to get a fix for their physical flaws, but a cure for their broken self-esteem. Students no longer study for their passions. They put away the drawings of their ambitions they drew in during their childhood, and aimed hard to do business and finance for the dollars and cents. So many marriages are on the rocks, with divorce rate rocketing off the roof, few in the world now belives in eternal love.
I am not immuned to all these. So many are the times when I feel lousy and inferior compared with others. I struggle with insecurity, and lived with my heart all hardden-up, dead and unable to love... even to the extent I withdraw from people and choose to stay within the comfort of my home.... But there is definitely a better way. STOP CONDEMNING YOURSELF. STEP OUT TO LOVE. Shower care for people... It gonna take effort and practise... It may be painful... But thats life.
I love the words of my A level biology teacher... "Only dead people has no problems..."
So.. make someone's day, and he will make yours ;)
Over the past few weeks, I have been pondering deeply on 'loving'. It started off when I saw a very impactful string of words on a friend's blog.... "You can have everything, but if you haven't love, you are truly nothing..." Those familiar with the bible would know that's the origin of this teaching. This isn't the first time I heard this, but this time round, these words kept me thinking for a long long time. I guess these are the word for this season of my life...
Everyone must have had some bad experiences in life. Some, we chuck aside... we run from them... (and a fortunate few ) we are able to resolve... but there the ones which we simply have no power against. We build tall walls to defend ourselves.... when these experiences gets too painful, we try to anesthetise ourselves.... Sometimes we even mutilate ourselves from within with the harshest self-condemnation. What's left over after such horrid treatment is nothing but a badly scarred soul that bleeds for acceptance...cry for comfort..yearns for love.
Personally, i think the most brutal wars are not waged with swords, but those that battles within the heart. In a materialistic, superficial world today, where only the affluent, successful and beautiful gets a share of the limelight... many who find themselves far from such qualities often feel insecure, inferior and unloved. They struggle to change. Many flock to gymnasiums, beauty parlours, aesthetic clinics to get a make-over to look like the next "Brangelina".... not to get a fix for their physical flaws, but a cure for their broken self-esteem. Students no longer study for their passions. They put away the drawings of their ambitions they drew in during their childhood, and aimed hard to do business and finance for the dollars and cents. So many marriages are on the rocks, with divorce rate rocketing off the roof, few in the world now belives in eternal love.
I am not immuned to all these. So many are the times when I feel lousy and inferior compared with others. I struggle with insecurity, and lived with my heart all hardden-up, dead and unable to love... even to the extent I withdraw from people and choose to stay within the comfort of my home.... But there is definitely a better way. STOP CONDEMNING YOURSELF. STEP OUT TO LOVE. Shower care for people... It gonna take effort and practise... It may be painful... But thats life.
I love the words of my A level biology teacher... "Only dead people has no problems..."
So.. make someone's day, and he will make yours ;)
this 3-month break is really too long and unbearable.
ok, call me a weirdo or whatever you want. But i really hate long breaks like this... let me see... what i've done this holiday...
1. watch more movies than the number of movies i've watched the last 3 years added up
2. tutored some nice kids for 'o' level physics
3. hit the gym again after a 6 months break (my gym partner is recovering from a broken wrist)
4. met up with different group frens on and off to catch up with them after a busy semester
5. 'chup-in' the school's freshmen orientation camp, acted in 'fright nite' production of the camp
6. slept late... wake up late....
7. celebrated my 23 birthday with loved ones and frens
..... this looks damn depressing. like walking aimlessly in a valley.
I need to start living for my dreams.. and start soaring for the sky!!
1. watch more movies than the number of movies i've watched the last 3 years added up
2. tutored some nice kids for 'o' level physics
3. hit the gym again after a 6 months break (my gym partner is recovering from a broken wrist)
4. met up with different group frens on and off to catch up with them after a busy semester
5. 'chup-in' the school's freshmen orientation camp, acted in 'fright nite' production of the camp
6. slept late... wake up late....
7. celebrated my 23 birthday with loved ones and frens
..... this looks damn depressing. like walking aimlessly in a valley.
I need to start living for my dreams.. and start soaring for the sky!!
Defining: Love
I must have heard a few dozens of definitios and sayings concerning love. But i think the bible gives the best definition, in my opinion ;D
1 Corinthians 13 (New Living Translation)
1 Corinthians 13
Love Is the Greatest
1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[b] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! 9 Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! 10 But when full understanding comes, these partial things will become useless.
11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[c] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.
13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13 (New Living Translation)
1 Corinthians 13
Love Is the Greatest
1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[b] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! 9 Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! 10 But when full understanding comes, these partial things will become useless.
11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[c] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.
13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
Validation
Recently, I read a pretty inspirational article from NewPaper (hmmm... ), which i hardly ever come close to reading - for the fact that I am not such a die-hard soccer fan or sports junkie. It surprised me at first that they do post some good stuff afterall, its from some local tabloid. OK, let's get it clear. This isn't some emo thing that you've been reading (as those in my previous blog entries), but something i think that's worth learning....
The article talks about the issue of self validation. In a nutshell, people are either internally or externally validated. Some quick defs:
Internally validated: People who look to themselves as the ultimate arbiter in value judgements.
Externally validated: People who primarily look externally for approvals and appraisals for their self-identity.
So like anyone, i did a quick mental assessment to see which camp i belonged to. Well sadly, I think i am the more frailed, latter.
The article went on to paint some scenarios to further illustrate the difference between the two traits..
"If you're internally validated, your evidence would from within yourself. Such a person culd design a building that wins many architectural awards but if he does not feel that it is special, all the outside approval wont't convince him it is". Sounds cocky? well, i say thats some character. But at least, an internally validated person stands for himself and not cry for approval from somewhere (be it from the top (if you are a God abidding soul ) or from your surrounding (if you too afraid to lose people around you for what you stand for).
So next comes the BIG Q, "What should I do to make yourself more internally validated?"
Well, it says, "You need to develope new patterns and ways of thinking. You have to break your old habits and trait yourself to have good habits. Being internally validated comes primarily from self confidence, which in turn comes from experience and reflection. If you've done something successfully for 10 or 20 years, you're probably self validated about that activity....So reflect hard and gain experience in these areas. Then monitor yoursel to see whether you are being needlessly swayed by your peers or whether you think and feel that way. Don't mindlessly follow or obey others. Be your own man."
oh, BTW...This actually comes from a dating section of Newpaper....the article below this one was, "How do I approach the hot girls in the clubs?". Shallow! hahhaa. so are you quite surprised at their wisom (or course, this comes after some of my careful censorship)...
The article talks about the issue of self validation. In a nutshell, people are either internally or externally validated. Some quick defs:
Internally validated: People who look to themselves as the ultimate arbiter in value judgements.
Externally validated: People who primarily look externally for approvals and appraisals for their self-identity.
So like anyone, i did a quick mental assessment to see which camp i belonged to. Well sadly, I think i am the more frailed, latter.
The article went on to paint some scenarios to further illustrate the difference between the two traits..
"If you're internally validated, your evidence would from within yourself. Such a person culd design a building that wins many architectural awards but if he does not feel that it is special, all the outside approval wont't convince him it is". Sounds cocky? well, i say thats some character. But at least, an internally validated person stands for himself and not cry for approval from somewhere (be it from the top (if you are a God abidding soul ) or from your surrounding (if you too afraid to lose people around you for what you stand for).
So next comes the BIG Q, "What should I do to make yourself more internally validated?"
Well, it says, "You need to develope new patterns and ways of thinking. You have to break your old habits and trait yourself to have good habits. Being internally validated comes primarily from self confidence, which in turn comes from experience and reflection. If you've done something successfully for 10 or 20 years, you're probably self validated about that activity....So reflect hard and gain experience in these areas. Then monitor yoursel to see whether you are being needlessly swayed by your peers or whether you think and feel that way. Don't mindlessly follow or obey others. Be your own man."
oh, BTW...This actually comes from a dating section of Newpaper....the article below this one was, "How do I approach the hot girls in the clubs?". Shallow! hahhaa. so are you quite surprised at their wisom (or course, this comes after some of my careful censorship)...
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